Why are we still calling them Dreams?

If I had a dollar for every time someone told me that dreams don’t pay the bills I would have an established empire by now. The universe gives us what we ask for, so is our problem the fact that we are only calling them dreams in the first place? We grow up, go to uni, get a degree, get a good job, buy a house, have children and then they grow up and repeat the process. We are conditioned and then we learn to condition that we can have dreams but we need a “real job” to survive and these dreams that we have may one day become great hobbies or goals to work towards but never “real occupations”. My question is why not? Why can’t our dreams become our occupations?

 So often I hear people say ‘I wish I could do that”, or “ its so good your following your dreams and fighting for what you want”. What is it that’s holding us back, and most of all what are we so afraid of? Is it fear of failure, the unknown, self doubt, or is it because we have been brought up in a society where we learn that stability and security doesn’t come from dreams. Now don’t get me wrong money doesn’t grow on tree’s I know! And we must be able to support ourselves along the way, but who’s to say that they cant become our reality and why are we still calling them dreams?

We are the creators of our opportunities but we must first believe that we are capable of creating these opportunities in which will make us truly happy. I’m an aspiring actress… but I am studying to be a lawyer sound familiar? Is this is half our problem having to think that we need to have a back up occupation to avoid any judgment when having a conversation to someone about what we are aspiring to be. When your introduced to someone ever notice his or her first question will generally be, so what do you do for a living? And you then quickly ask yourself, do I answer truthfully or safely to avoid judgment. Somehow these questions have become a solid way to define us and rank us on a scale of how successful we are or will be one day.

In the past I have been one to avoid these types of questions because I was once afraid of how others would respond and I was worried I would walk away questioning my career choices based on the opinions of others. What’s your back up plan? What else will you do? Or my favourite, its nice to have dreams but there just dreams not “real jobs”.  Then we asking ourselves.... wait for it, “Maybe I should just get a job like everyone else and be done with it”. Sound familiar? So why are we looking for the approval from others in our response? Are we creating back up plans to prepare ourselves for moments like these? Falling into occupations for reassurance from others? Or is it because we ourselves don’t believe that we are capable of making our dreams realities. 

“Why are we allowing ourselves to follow paths for reassurance as opposed to following paths of great risks”?

Wouldn’t it be so much more rewarding to approach these questions with confidence, happiness and excitement about what we are creating for our future? As opposed to allowing ourselves to give away our courage and faith because we fear what others will think of us? The outcome may surprise you, you may just be that little bit of inspiration that, that someone needed. We may all dress and act differently but at the end of the day, we all have dreams.

So now I ask you again.

Why are we still calling them dreams?

 Be the change.

Love H O P E x 

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