So does the term busy actually have a definition or is it just a word used to make excuses?


Yesterday I was at the mall doing some food shopping when I overheard the words " I don't have time" coming from a young lady down the other end of the ale. ( I was intrigued by her choice of words.)

I stopped and looked up to see where the voice was coming from, a lady who happened to be speaking on the phone to someone and from what I could see this lady 

Looked a little stressed and on edge. I carried on with my own business when I heard it again. "Jack, I'm telling you, I just don't have any time for this right now! And then again, I'm so busy jack, you don't understand, I don't have time!. So by this stage I was even more intrigued I wanted to know what it was that was creating such anger and frustration in this lady which i could hear in her voice. So I decided to play the time detective! I  discreetly followed behind, still casually minding my own business, but where ever she went I just followed behind… mmm (ok that's sounds weird) but you get me. 😕 I wanted to count how much time she spend on that phone call explaining how she didn't have time because to, me she was spending  more time talking about how much time she didn't have instead of using that time more effectively. Meanwhile, she still hadn't placed anything in her basket yet either. ( Go figure) 

So I continued to stroll behind causally looking at my watch, 10 mins had passed, (yes 10mins I was still following) ha-ha. (I did think for a second  that it could have gotten awkward if she clocked onto me, but I thought she was so absorbed in her mental state she had no idea, or perhaps she did, which is even more awkward for me ha-ha but  I continued on with the mission ha-ha). By this stage I had counted 10 TIMES in total this young lady had said how she doesn't have time!. 

So it got me thinking!

When we say we don't have time to do something! Is that really what we mean?

In other words, when we really want to do something, we make time to get it done right? Because we want it done!

When something had to be handed in, or completed, we make them because we know if we don't, we may not pass or the outcome will not be good for us.

So when we say we don't have time to do something, is it because we really don't have time or because we don't want to make them? Think about it 

 So often I hear family, friends, strangers in the supermarket 😊, I even catch myself at times saying the words  "I don't have time", but is that what we are really thinking? 

When someone asks a favor of you and then you go away and think about it, discuss it over dinner with your family or friends, do you say " I'm going to do this for them, or do you say look id love to but I seriously don't have the time right now, I'm so busy! .. 

When we are bored, we want to be busy and when we are busy we complain we don't have time. ….. 

What is the definition of busy? 

Have you noticed that when a person is speaking the words "I'm so busy or I don't have time" they often look like they are either going to burst into tears or strangle someone?

 Or in this case scream down the phone at someone because then feel like no one is understanding how busy there are. 

Then someone who is actually busy still finds the time to help others and cram more into their schedule?

The truth is people that  are busy don't complain about being busy for 1,  they  don't  talk about being busy because they are being proactive and getting things done, so the topic of conversation isn't about how busy they are, in fact busy people don't have a topic for being busy.. Because they just get it done! And the people that aren't busy spending their time on the phone at the supermarket with nothing in their basket? Complaining how busy they are. 

So does the term busy actually have a definition or is it just a word used to make excuses? 

I'm sorry I can't help you I'm too busy!

I can't do that I don't have time!

I would love to come to that, but I have so much work to do!

Just before the lady finished her conversation there was a moment of silence where I could see she was listening to the other person on the phone, nodding her head, and then she took a deep breath and said yeah your right I think its just that I dont want to do it. I rather put time into what I need to do. It's more important to me. So there you have it, it's not that she didn't "have time" she just didn't want to make time what that person or perhaps thing that she was being asked to to? 

We all have choices in this life, we are in total control of every decision we make and 100% of the time we go with our gut feeling as to what we want to do in situations!

So when we "decide " we are too busy to do something, maybe we need to ask ourselves if we are really that  busy or do we simply just not want to do it?

And if the answer is that we simply don't want to do it, maybe we should ask ourselves why? Because the one thing we do have on our side believe  it or not is in fact time and if we only have time for ourselves and not for others there is generally a reason for that and trust me when I say it's not because we are " to busy".

Something to think about? 

Love H O P E xx

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